Amanda Testa

Less Fixing, More Flirting: How to Actually Enjoy Your Relationship Again

Amanda Testa — Tue, 08 Sep 2026 22:19:14 +0000

Less Fixing , More Flirting: How to Actually Enjoy your relationship again With Amanda Testa Less fixing. More Flirting. Somewhere along the way, relationships became one more thing we’re supposed to be constantly working on. What if the goal isn’t to become perfectly healed, optimized, regulated humans who finally earn the right to enjoy our lives , and each other? Listen, I’ve spent more than 12 years helping folks create better sex, deeper intimacy, and stronger relationships. I absolutely believe in doing the work.I believe in repair. I believe in accountability. I believe in having the hard conversations when they need to happen.But I also think we’ve forgotten something pretty important:You are actually supposed to enjoy the person you’re doing life with.After years together, kids, work, hormones, aging parents, laundry, schedules, carpool and ALL THE THINGS…it’s really easy to wake up one day and realize you’ve become excellent logistics partners…but you’re not having much freaking fun together.This week on the podcast, I’m talking about one of my favorite pieces of relationship advice:LESS FIXING. MORE FLIRTING. Because sometimes the thing your relationship needs isn’t another giant breakthrough.It’s a little more aliveness.A longer kiss.An inside joke.A flirty text.Putting your phone down when they’re talking.Sitting with them while they cook instead of doing one more chore.Laughing your asses off.Remembering…Oh yeah. I really LIKE you. In this episode, you’ll discover:♥️ The sneaky way loving couples slowly become roommates without even realizing it ♥️ Why tiny moments of connection can have a much bigger impact than you think ♥️ Why more date nights might not actually be the answer ♥️ How to know when something genuinely needs repair… and when you might just need to stop processing and go have some fun ♥️ Why flirting is about so much more than sex ♥️ The everyday moments that help bring back affection, playfulness, curiosity and spark ♥️ Why your relationship doesn’t need to become another f&^$ing self-improvement project ♥️ The simple question that can help make your relationship feel 5% more fun this week And a whole lot more. If you’ve been feeling more like roommates, co-parents or logistics managers than lovers lately…consider this your invitation to stop trying so hard and start enjoying each other again. Enjoy! Amanda Loved this episode?💗 Share it with someone who needs it⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the…

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The Art of “Snudging”: Protecting Your Energy in Midlife with Amanda Testa

Amanda Testa — Wed, 02 Sep 2026 22:21:04 +0000

The Art of “Snudging” Protecting Your Energy In Midlife With Amanda Testa I’ve been doing a lot less this past year. And it’s been revolutionary. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the art of “snudging” , a concept I learned from Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer*. It means doing the bare minimum necessary, cutting out all the extra bullshit, and getting really honest about what actually deserves your precious energy. After decades of doing, achieving, caring for everyone, improving ourselves, healing ourselves, optimizing ourselves and generally trying to keep ALL THE THINGS moving… menopause can arrive with a pretty clear message: I am no longer available for doing the f&^$ing most. This is powerful wisdom. In this episode, I’m sharing a little about what I’ve been up to over the past year, homeschooling, traveling through Italy, working with amazing clients, deepening my skills through advanced trainings, having more fun with friends, taking care of myself, and intentionally slowing down. And what I’ve realized is that while I may be doing less, I think I’m living more. I’m talking about letting “good enough” actually be good enough, becoming more discerning about where your life force goes, and making more room for pleasure, connection, creativity, rest and the people and experiences that matter most. In this episode, you’ll discover: ♥️What “snudging” means and why I’m loving this concept in midlife ♥️Why menopause can make us suddenly much less tolerant of things that drain us ♥️The difference between doing less and caring less ♥️Why your body may be asking you to stop overriding yourself ♥️What slowing down has looked like in my own life over the past year ♥️Why depth can sometimes matter more than constant growth and expansion ♥️The sneaky ways we turn our bodies, businesses, relationships and lives into giant self improvement projects ♥️Why pleasure and fun don’t always need to be productive or therapeutic ♥️How to decide what actually deserves your energy ♥️Why “good enough” might be one of the most liberating practices of midlife And a more. If you’re tired of feeling like you should be doing more, fixing more, achieving more or somehow becoming a better version of yourself before you’re allowed to enjoy your life… Consider this your permission slip. I’d love to hear how this lands for you, please reply to this email and let me know!! Cheers to Snudging Y’all!! Loved this episode?💗 Share it with…

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The Pleasure Of Nourishment, Food, Ritual and Feminine Fire with Leigh Senna

Amanda Testa — Tue, 12 May 2026 13:14:18 +0000

The Pleasure of Nourishment: Food, Ritual and Feminine Fire With Amanda Testa and Leigh Senna What if nourishment wasn’t just about food… but about vitality, pleasure, devotion, and the way we love ourselves? In this deeply nourishing conversation, I am joined by my dear friend, Leigh Senna. She is the founder of KitchenWise, Appalachian homesteader, former women’s coach, and creator of The Cook Along: Rebel Home Ec for Grown-Ass Women. We explore why the kitchen, a place so many women experience as exhausting may actually hold the doorway back to feminine wisdom, sensuality, connection, and aliveness. Leigh shares the deeply personal story of how profound grief, loss, and illness transformed her relationship with nourishment, and how her kitchen became a sanctuary during the hardest years of her life. This conversation weaves together food, pleasure, nervous system healing, ritual, modern motherhood, grief, beauty, feminine embodiment, and the quiet rebellion of choosing to truly nourish yourself in a culture built on depletion and convenience. Listen in to Discover: 💗Why so many women feel disconnected, overwhelmed, or resentful around food 💗The surprising connection between nourishment, libido, mood, energy, and Feminine Fire 💗How modern convenience culture disconnects us from pleasure, vitality, and community 💗Why “women’s work” has been historically devalued — and how reclaiming nourishment becomes radical 💗How cooking can shift from obligation into ritual, creativity, sensuality, and self-devotion 💗Amanda shares what she discovered during her time in Italy about slowing down, food, and feeling truly nourished 💗Leigh introduces her revolutionary Cook Along experience, a playful, communal, deeply human reimagining of how women gather, cook, and care for themselves together This episode is an invitation to soften the pressure, reconnect to what truly feeds you, and remember that pleasure can live in the simplest moments, even while chopping vegetables in your kitchen. If you’ve been craving more ease, vitality, connection, beauty, and devotion in your life, this conversation will feel like a warm exhale for your nervous system. Connect with Leigh Senna:Join The Cook Along:@leighsenna on InstagramEmail: hello@leighsenna.com Loved this episode?💗 Share it with someone who needs it⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m…

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Feel Closer, Fight Less, and Want Each Other More, Creating your Ideal Relationship in 2026

Amanda Testa — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 22:33:09 +0000

How to Feel Closer, Fight Less and Want Each Other More With Amanda Testa Have you ever looked at your partner and thought:We’re fine… but I don’t feel in love the way I used to.You’re not alone…and nothing has gone wrong. In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda Testa shares why so many loving, committed couples slowly drift apart — and what actually brings desire, closeness, and joy back online.This episode is for you if: 💗You miss feeling butterflies, tingles, or desire 💗You love your partner but feel bored, distant, or disconnected 💗You’ve tried books, podcasts, or therapy — and still feel stuck 💗You want a relationship that feels nourishing, alive, and fun again In this episode, Amanda explores: 💗Why the real relationship problem isn’t communication or sex — it’s desire 💗How couples drift apart without meaning to 💗The “wait and see” trap that keeps intimacy temporary 💗Why insight alone doesn’t create lasting connection 💗How nervous-system patterns silently drive conflict and shutdown 💗The difference between rupture and repair (and why repair matters most) 💗Why making connection fun is not optional — it’s essential 💗How to create a shared relationship vision for 2026 💗Simple reflection questions to help you grow, goal-set, and reconnect together Amanda also shares a powerful, practical ritual you can do at home to: 💗Remember what you already love about each other 💗Reignite warmth and appreciation 💗Create momentum toward the relationship you actually want Ready for deeper support?Amanda is hosting a free Relationship Renewal Ritual — a guided, private, at-home experience to help you reconnect, reset patterns, and start 2026 feeling closer.🗓 January 29th | 6:00 PM MT🎧 Replay available🔒 100% private & anonymous👉 Save your spot:https://amandatesta.com/renewBecause when your relationship feels good, everything feels easier.Resources & Links🔥 Free Sensuality Activation: amandatesta.com/thegoods💌 Relationship Renewal Ritual: amandatesta.com/renew Loved this episode?💗 Share it with someone who needs it⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide. My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can…

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Discover The Liberating Power Of Menopause with Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer | 2

Amanda Testa — Mon, 06 Oct 2025 11:00:58 +0000

Discover The Liberating Power Of Menopause with Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer With Amanda Testa Are you approaching or experiencing menopause and feeling confused, overwhelmed, or even a bit scared? This episode is your beacon of hope and empowerment. Prepare to have your perspective completely revolutionized as we explore menopause not as a crisis, but as a sacred rite of passage into leadership, power, and profound transformation. In this episode, I’m thrilled to introduce you to two visionary pioneers in the field of menstruality: Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, founders of Red School with 45 years of combined experience. We dive deep into their groundbreaking new book, “Wise Power: Discovering the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose, and Belonging.”What you’ll discover in this episode: ♥️ Redefining menopause: Discover how this transition is not an ending, but a powerful awakening and expansion of consciousness. ♥️ The 5 phases of menopause: Learn about the archetypal journey through menopause, providing a map to navigate this transformative process with dignity and understanding. ♥️ Embracing the ‘undoing’: Understand why feeling undone is a natural and necessary part of the menopausal journey, leading to profound self-discovery. ♥️ The importance of rest and repair: Explore why slowing down and allowing yourself time for deep healing is crucial during this phase of life. ♥️ Awakening to a new power: Gain insights into how menopause can deliver you home to yourself, helping you step into your true authority and purpose. This episode is a must-listen for any woman who wants to approach menopause with confidence, embrace her evolving rhythms, and catalyze a deep transformation that will ripple through every aspect of her life. Tune in to unlock the secrets of this sacred rite of passage and discover how you can harness the liberating power of menopause to awaken your innate wisdom, authority, and sense of belonging. ————– AND.. Check out their FREE 3-day event coming up – How Menopause Awakens Your Power, a free three-day event Tuesday, October 21 – Thursday, October 23‍11 am -12 pm (New York) / 4 pm – 5 pm (UK) each day (The last day will end at 5:30 pm)Register HERE ————– GET THE TRANSCRIPT HERE Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation…

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Pleasure, Permission, and the Power of Erotic Reawakening with Pamela Madsen

Amanda Testa — Mon, 29 Sep 2025 14:47:16 +0000

Pleasure, Permission, and the Power of Erotic Reawakening With Pamela Madsen Episode 351: Pleasure, Permission, and the Power of Erotic Reawakening with Pamela Madsen This week on the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined once again by the radiant Pamela Madsen—somatic educator, author, and founder of Back to the Body. Pamela has guided thousands of women through powerful erotic reawakenings, and in this episode, she brings her signature humor, depth, and realness to the mic. We explore what it means to reclaim desire later in life, how pleasure can become a creative force, and what happens when women finally stop tending to others and start tending to themselves. Here’s what we cover in this juicy conversation:Why erotic healing doesn’t follow a quick-fix formula,and how immersion, sisterhood, and safety create real transformationThe importance of recognizing “dry roots” and giving yourself permission to feastHow women can start small (even with what they put on their plate) and begin reawakening their own erotic energy Pamela reminds us that it’s never too late to return to our own bodies and that our erotic fire isn’t a luxury, it’s a foundational part of our overall wellness. Learn more about Pamela’s work and upcoming retreats at www.backtothebody.org Follow Pamela on Instagram: @thepamelamadsen Read the transcript here. Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide. My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire. My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation. I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old, Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.  I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality. When…

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A New Position on Sex with Dr. Juliana Hauser

Amanda Testa — Mon, 22 Sep 2025 16:15:21 +0000

A New Position on Sex With Dr. Juliana Hauser Episode 350: A New Position on Sex with Dr. Juliana Hauser Finding Sexual Sovereignty in Midlife: A Conversation with Dr. Juliana HauserAre you navigating the sometimes tumultuous waters of midlife transitions? Feeling disconnected from your desire or uncertain about your shifting identity? You’re certainly not alone. In our latest episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, I had the incredible pleasure of speaking with Dr. Juliana Hauser, a world-renowned sexologist, TEDx speaker, and creator of the Revealed Holistic Sexuality curriculum. With over 20 years of experience helping people liberate themselves from shame and confidently own their sexual identity, Juliana brings profound insights to one of life’s most transformative chapters. Embracing the Metamorphosis of Midlife “It’s an overall metamorphosis in midlife, from head to toe. You are changing,” Dr. Hauser explains. “I think we haven’t completely embraced that this change can really be a beautiful change if you understand that it’s coming and you can prepare for it.” What struck me most about our conversation was Juliana’s emphasis on developing a “tolerance for ambiguity” during this time. Rather than fighting against the uncertainty of perimenopause, menopause, and other midlife transitions, she suggests learning to move forward without needing absolute certainty to feel emotionally safe. This isn’t easy! Our bodies are changing, our hormones are fluctuating, and sometimes we barely recognize ourselves. But as Juliana reminds us, having agency – knowing your terms and living them – can be your North Star through these changes. A Personal Journey Through Medical Agency One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was when Juliana shared her personal experience with having a hysterectomy last year. With remarkable candor, she described how she applied the principles of agency to this significant medical decision: “I showed up for myself,” she explained, describing how she prioritized her needs even when it felt uncomfortable or unfamiliar. Juliana even filmed herself daily throughout the five-week preparation period, creating a video journal that later revealed themes she hadn’t consciously recognized – like her exhaustion from constantly “pushing through” difficult experiences, a pattern many women maintain throughout their lives. Redefining Sexuality in Midlife Perhaps the most liberating aspect of our conversation centered around holistic sexuality. As Juliana emphasized, “Being a sexual person isn’t about having sex. It’s about knowing a deeper layer of yourself.” Her approach to sexuality encompasses nine pillars, with sexual…

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Hotter Than Ever with Erin Keating

Amanda Testa — Mon, 15 Sep 2025 13:06:20 +0000

Hotter Than Ever With Erin Keating Episode 349: Hotter Than Ever with Erin Keating This week on the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, Amanda sits down with the wildly funny and deeply wise Erin Keating—host of the Hotter Than Ever podcast—to talk about what it really looks like to reclaim your voice, your pleasure, and your self-worth in midlife. Erin’s story is equal parts inspiring, sobering, and hilarious. From the outside, she had it all: a big career, a house with a pool, twins, and a long marriage. But inside? She was exhausted, sexless, and completely disconnected from herself.After a COVID hospitalization, turning 50, and leaving both her marriage and her job, Erin started over. Here’s what we talked about: Why her COVID hospitalization was a wake-up call—and the beginning of real changeWhat it felt like to leave a 17-year marriage (with 10 sexless years) and start dating againHow she reclaimed her pleasure through baby steps, honesty, and a lot of experimentationThe question that haunted her and ultimately transformed herWhat it looks like to build a business rooted in collaboration, creativity, and self-trust This is a must-listen for anyone navigating the messy, powerful middle of life. Connect with Erin:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpodWebsite: www.hotterthaneverpod.comLearn more about her new business at broadcollective.com Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide. My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire. My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation. I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old, Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.  I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality. When we own our…

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Riding the Real Waves of Midlife

Amanda Testa — Mon, 08 Sep 2025 15:02:59 +0000

Riding the Real Waves of Midlife With Amanda Testa Episode 348: Riding the Real Waves of Midlife Welcome to a deeply personal episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast. This week, I’m coming to you raw and unedited, sharing what’s been on my heart as I navigate the ambiguous terrain of midlife. So much is shifting—and while some of it is magical, a lot of it is hard. Here’s what I’m unpacking in this episode: What it feels like to be in perimenopause while parenting, working, and caretakingWhy I’m no longer trying to over-perform—and what “snudging” looks like in practiceThe grief of disconnection from friends and community—and the joy of reaching back outWhat’s changing in my relationship, and how we’re finding intimacy in unexpected waysHow I’m learning to sit with ambiguity, not-knowing, and surrender This episode is for anyone riding the waves of midlife—or preparing for what’s to come. Tune in for a tender, real-time reflection on how to stay connected to yourself when the world keeps asking more of you. Read the transcript here. Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide. My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire. My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation. I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old, Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality. When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes. Our confidence and body image soars. Our relationships deepen. And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing. Get Your Sensual Activation…

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Reclaiming Your Pelvic Power with Jana Danielson

Amanda Testa — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 17:40:38 +0000

Reclaiming Your Pelvic Power With Jana Danielson Episode 347: Reclaiming Your Pelvic Power with Jana Danielson Have you ever felt like your core is working against you instead of for you? Or wondered why sex doesn’t feel the same anymore? You’re not alone—and this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast is here to change the game. Your pelvic floor is so much more than just muscles—it’s a neurological superhighway that connects your brain to your entire body. In this episode, I sit down with award-winning wellness entrepreneur Jana Danielson to uncover the surprising truths about pelvic health and how you can reclaim pleasure, power, and peace in your body—starting from the inside out. We cover: The surprising science behind pelvic pain (hint: it’s not just physical)Why trauma and stress often manifest in the pelvis—and how to begin healingHow to improve vitality and sensation with gentle, daily toolsThe empowering backstory behind The Cooch Ball and how it’s changing lives This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their body—especially if you’ve ever felt disconnected, depleted, or curious about how to access more energy and ease from within. Resources Mentioned: Cooch Ball Classic – $39.95Intimacy Bundle – $97Perimenopause Bundle – $97 Read the transcript here. Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship? If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here. About Your Host: My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide. My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire. My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation. I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old, Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.  I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality. When…

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