How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex (Without It Feeling Awkward or Leading to a Fight)

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How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex (Without It Feeling Awkward or Leading to a Fight)

With Amanda Testa 

🎙️ Episode 330: How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex (Without It Feeling Awkward or Leading to a Fight)

Have you ever wanted to talk to your partner about sex but felt totally awkward, unsure, or even a little scared to bring it up? Maybe you’ve tried, but it led to defensiveness, frustration, or straight-up avoidance instead of deeper intimacy.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Even the most confident, high-achievers (yes, you!) can freeze up when it comes to expressing desires in the bedroom. We overthink, we worry about being too much, or we fear rejection… and so we just don’t say anything at all.

But here’s the thing—how we talk about sex is just as important as the sex itself.

That’s why, in this week’s episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, you’ll discover the exact tools and scripts you need to talk about sex with confidence, clarity, and ease—without making your partner feel defensive or shutting down.

You’ll Discover: 

— How to bring up intimacy in a way that feels natural and inviting

— Why nervous system regulation is key to sexual communication

— The biggest mistakes we make when discussing sex—and how to avoid them

— Playful, low-pressure ways to make intimacy talks fun and ongoing

Your pleasure matters. Your desires are valid. And you deserve a relationship where you feel deeply connected—inside and outside the bedroom.

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

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© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How Sacred Sexuality Revolutionizes Relationships

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How Sacred Sexuality Revolutionizes Relationships

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 329: How Sacred Sexuality Revolutionizes Relationships

Ever wonder why some couples maintain that magnetic spark for decades while others fade into roommate status?

The secret isn’t what you think.

In this week’s raw and intimate episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m taking you behind the scenes of a powerful conversation with leading intimacy experts about how sacred sexuality is revolutionizing relationships.

You’ll discover:

— Why “just spicing things up” often backfires (and what actually works)

— How couples are rekindling passion after years of disconnect

— The surprising way trauma shows up in intimacy (and how to heal it)

— Why your “broken” sex drive might actually be working perfectly

— The missing piece that transforms obligation into opportunity

This episode is especially for you if:✨ You’re craving deeper intimacy but feeling stuck

✨ Your relationship has lost its spark

✨ You’re navigating body changes or health challenges

✨ Traditional relationship advice hasn’t worked

✨ You sense there’s more possible in love and sex

Plus, hear real stories of transformation from couples who’ve discovered how sacred sexuality can anchor relationships through life’s biggest challenges – from perimenopause to grief to global uncertainty.

Ready to revolutionize your relationship? Listen now!

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

Transform Your Relationship in Minutes a Day (Even If Your Partner Isn’t On Board)

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Transform Your Relationship in Minutes a Day (Even If Your Partner Isn’t On Board)

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 324: 5 Hot Habits That Transform Relationships (Even If Your Partner Isn’t On Board)

Have you ever noticed those couples who seem to radiate passion and connection, even after years together? Meanwhile, others slowly drift into roommate status, wondering where their spark disappeared to.

As a Sex and Relationship Coach for over a decade, I’ve discovered something surprising: the smallest shifts often create the biggest transformations in relationships. And the best part? These shifts don’t require hours of therapy or both partners being on board to start seeing results.

In this week’s episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m sharing five powerful yet simple habits that have helped hundreds of my clients move from disconnection to deep intimacy. These aren’t your typical “schedule a date night” suggestions – these are the deeper practices that create lasting change.

You’ll discover:

— A powerful mindset shift that transforms relationship dynamics instantly

— Why trying harder might be pushing love away (and what to do instead)

— The surprising morning habit that reignites passion

— How to break free from criticism patterns without stuffing down your feelings

— A simple daily practice that magnetically attracts more love

Plus, I’ll share how these practices laid the foundation for my own 14 year long marriage staying passionate and connected, even through life’s challenges.

Ready to transform your relationship? Listen to the full episode to learn all five habits and start implementing them today.

Want to take this work even deeper? I invite you to join me for Turned On Wealth™, where we’ll use sex magic and pleasure practices to manifest your deepest relationship desires. Learn more at www.amandatesta.com/turnedonwealth/

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

5 Tips to Keep Your Holidays Joyful and Juicy (Even If You’re Busy AF)

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5 Tips to Keep Your Holidays Joyful and Juicy (Even If You’re Busy AF)

With Amanda Testa

5 Tips to Keep Your Holidays Joyful and Juicy (Even If You’re Busy AF)

Feeling overwhelmed by the endless holiday to-do lists? Craving more connection and joy, but barely have time to breathe?

Here’s the truth: The magic of the season isn’t in perfect decorations or Pinterest-worthy gatherings. It’s in those small, delicious moments that are already woven into your days – if you know how to access them.

In this week’s episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m sharing 5 game-changing tips that will transform your holiday experience without adding more to your already full plate. These aren’t your typical “self-care” suggestions – they’re practical, sensual strategies that work in real life, even when you’re surrounded by family or racing through your busy day.

You’ll discover:

— How to find pleasure in unexpected places (no spa day required)

— The secret to setting boundaries that deepen connection rather than create distance

— Ways to keep intimacy alive, even with a house full of guests

— A revolutionary approach to holiday perfectionism that will set you free

— The simple practice that amplifies joy in all your relationships

Plus, a special bonus tip for those struggling with complex holiday emotions (because let’s be real – it’s not all mistletoe and magic for everyone).

Ready to feel more alive, connected, and turned on to life this holiday season?Listen to the full episode now.

And don’t forget to download my free “5 Days of Holiday Peace & Pleasure” audio practices at amandatesta.com/thegoods.

Because you deserve a holiday season that feels less like a marathon and more like a sensual, joy-filled dance.

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

The Secret to Passionate, Connected Relationships That Last

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The Secret to Passionate, Connected Relationships That Last

With Mark And Amanda Testa

The Secret to Passionate, Connected Relationships That Last

Are you ready to transform your relationship and deepen your connection with your partner? In this intimate episode, I’m joined by my husband Mark to discuss how sacred sexuality practices have revolutionized our marriage and can do the same for you.

In this episode, we explore:

— Why sacred sexuality isn’t about marathon tantric sessions, but rather about deepening authentic connection

— How to move past people-pleasing tendencies in the bedroom

— The importance of opening your heart fully to your partner (and why it’s scarier than you think)

— Our favorite practice for building vulnerability and trust: the “Fears, Loves & Desires” exercise

— Breaking free from goal-oriented behavior during intimacy

— Tips for men on embracing sacred sexuality and supporting their partners

— Real talk about handling conflict, repair, and keeping love alive through challenges

We get vulnerable about our own journey from a guarded, performance-based connection to one of true intimacy and partnership. Mark shares his perspective on moving past patriarchal conditioning, while I discuss overcoming “good girl” programming and learning to honor my own pleasure and desires.Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark or take your relationship to new depths of connection, this episode offers practical wisdom for couples ready to do this transformative work together.

DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

About Amanda

I’m Amanda Testa.

I’m a Sex, Love and Embodiment Coach and founder of Find Your Feminine Fire.

My methods bridge ancient tantric tools combined with the latest in neuroscience to help high performing women ditch the guilt and unworthiness and embody confidence, radiance and vitality in all areas of their lives.

If you’re ready to stop feeling like an imposter in your own body (and business, and life), I’m here to help.

Together, we’re going to light your fire so that you can feel tuned in and turned on about every area of your life again.

Yes, it’s totally possible.

And yes, it’s so totally time.

15 Minute Sensuality Activation HERE

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