How to Create Lasting Sexual Connections

With Emily Nagoski

🎙️ Episode 344: How to Create Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily Nagoski

I’m beyond thrilled to welcome back to the pod, the brilliant Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of the groundbreaking books “Come As You Are” and her newest release “Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections.”

In this intimate and enlightening episode, Emily breaks down what it really takes to maintain a vibrant sexual connection in long-term relationships – and it might not be what you think! We dive deep into:

• The 7 emotional “rooms” that influence our sexual experiences• Why pleasure matters more than desire• How to navigate body changes and transitions while maintaining intimacy• The surprising truth about what makes sex “magnificent” (hint: it’s not what most people assume!)

Emily also shares her own experiences, including how writing her books impacted her personal relationships and what she learned about rekindling intimate connections during challenging times. Her practical wisdom about navigating perimenopause, body image, and relationship transitions is both validating and empowering.

For anyone struggling to find their way to pleasure in these challenging times (and let’s be honest – when isn’t it “these times”?), this episode offers hope, practical tools, and permission to prioritize pleasure as essential nourishment for our relationships and wellbeing.

Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or simply want to better understand your own sexual wellbeing, this conversation offers invaluable insights about creating lasting intimate connections that can weather life’s many changes.

Ready to transform your intimate life? Listen to the full episode above, and don’t forget to check out Emily’s new book “Come Together” for even more wisdom about creating the sexual connection you desire.

Find more from Dr. Emily Nagoski at EmilyNagoski.com and sign up for her newsletter!

Download the transcript here.

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

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The Power of Relationship Agreements 

With Krista Van Derveer

🎙️ Episode 343: The Power of Relationship Agreements with Krista Van Derveer

What if your relationship had a user manual—a clear roadmap for how you want to show up, support one another, and evolve together?

This week on Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by Krista Van Derveer, executive coach and creator of the Relationship Agreements Toolkit, to talk about what happens when couples move from unconscious assumptions to explicit, soul-aligned agreements.

We explore: ✨ How to use conflict as a tool for clarity—not a sign of failure ✨ Why making the implicit explicit is the foundation of intimacy ✨ How to navigate when your core values feel out of sync ✨ How to honor your relationship as a sacred container for healing and purpose

If you want more clarity, alignment, and safety in your relationship—this episode is for you.

Learn more about Krista and get her free guide at kristavanderveer.com

Download the transcript here. 

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How to Stop Bickering in Your Relationship and Reconnect Deeply

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 342: How to Stop Bickering in Your Relationship and Reconnect Deeply

Let’s be honest—bickering sucks.

It drains your energy, creates emotional distance, and often leaves both partners feeling misunderstood and alone. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be this way.

In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, You’ll discover why bickering happens (hint: it’s not about the dishwasher) and how couples can shift from reactive patterns into meaningful connection.

You’ll explore:✨ The somatic reasons we bicker—and how to work with your nervous system✨ One simple phrase that can interrupt conflict in the moment✨ How to repair after an argument with grace and accountability✨ A step-by-step structure for productive conversations (that don’t turn into fights)✨ Why creating emotional safety is essential for erotic connection

If you’re tired of the same old arguments or if you feel like your partnership has turned into a series of to-do lists and tense exchanges, this episode will help you course-correct.

DM Amanda on Instagram @abtesta to get 5 bicker breaker tips to stop arguing and start connecting again.

Download the transcript here. 

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

From Roommates to Lovers: 3 Sexy Secrets to Reignite Your Relationship This Summer

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 341: From Roommates to Lovers: 3 Sexy Secrets to Reignite Your Relationship This Summer

Let’s face it: summer can be beautiful, but also chaotic. Kids at home, calendars full, energy stretched thin. It’s no wonder so many couples end up feeling more like co-parents or coworkers than lovers.

In this solo episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m sharing some of my top client-tested tips to help couples reconnect—not in some hypothetical future, but this summer.

✨ Why intentionality matters more than spontaneity✨ How to carve out time even when you’re “too busy”✨ Why doing fun things together (outside the bedroom) is the real foreplay

If you’re craving more laughter, touch, and desire with your partner, you don’t want to miss this week’s episode.

Want more support creating your relationship vision? Book a 30 min Turn on Tune up call HERE and get my laser focus and expertise to help you map out your relationship vision for the summer.

Download the transcript here. 

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture

With Leora Tanenbaum

🎙️ Episode 340: Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture With Leora Tanenbaum

What if owning your image didn’t make you vain—or a target—but powerful?In this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by Leora Tanenbaum, the world’s leading expert on slut shaming and author of six books on the policing of women’s sexuality.

We explore how the culture of nonconsensual sexualization—fueled by social media, AI, and outdated gender norms—impacts girls and women at every age. Leora shares the shocking realities young people face today, and how we as adults can better support, protect, and believe them.

✨ Why the “she asked for it” myth is still dangerously alive✨ The 3 buckets of harm: dress codes, image-based sexual abuse, and victim-blaming✨ Why young women say they’re “owning” their sexuality—and what that really means✨ How parents can approach tough conversations with empathy, not panic✨ What collective action can do to create lasting change

This episode is a call to stop shaming and start listening. Whether you’re a parent, a survivor, or someone who’s been judged for how you show up in the world—this conversation offers deep validation and real direction.

Leora Tanenbaum, author of six books, began researching and writing about slut-shaming before the term even existed. Her newest book is Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture.

Her first book, Slut!, called one of the 20 “must-read” books of all time for women, is regarded as a significant contribution to feminist thought and the foundational text on slut-shaming. Tanenbaum has written for The New York Times, Teen Vogue, Seventeen, Cosmopolitan, New York Daily News, The Nation, and U.S. News & World Report and has been a guest on Oprah, The Today Show, Nightline, Bill Maher, Fox News, MSNBC, and National Public Radio. She is a frequent commentator for USA Today, where she discusses the gendered double standards faced by celebrities and non-celebs alike.

Download the transcript here.

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

Living More Joyfully, Mindfully + Meaningfully

With Judith Valente

🎙️ Episode 339: Living More Joyfully, Mindfully + Meaningfully with Judith Valente

When was the last time you let yourself truly savor life?

This week on the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by Judith Valente—award-winning author, poet, and spiritual teacher—for a soulful conversation about slowing down, honoring the rhythms of life, and reconnecting to what really matters.

Judith’s newest book, The Italian Soul, explores the rituals and cultural rhythms of Italy—and how they can help us live more fully, more reverently, and more joyfully in our own lives.

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ Why slowing down is essential—not indulgent✨ The joy and healing found in shared meals, simple rituals, and everyday beauty✨ What Italians can teach us about savoring life and prioritizing what matters✨ How to resist the trap of overachieving and reclaim your time✨ The power of place, presence, and belonging

Learn more about Judith and her retreats and books at judithvalente.com.

If you’ve been craving a more meaningful way to move through the world, this conversation will feel like a warm, grounding embrace.

Download the transcript here.

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity

With Dr. Monique Thompson

🎙️ Episode 338: How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity with Dr. Monique Thompson

Is it really possible to come back from betrayal and build something stronger?

This week on Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by therapist and bestselling author Dr. Monique Thompson, who brings over 20 years of experience helping couples heal from infidelity and reconnect with trust, intimacy, and emotional safety.

In this conversation, we dive deep into the real work of repair—and what’s possible when both partners are willing to show up.

✨ Why infidelity is more about consent than sex✨ The difference between repairing and avoiding✨ How to take care of yourself (whether or not the relationship lasts)✨ Why curiosity and personal responsibility are essential✨ A reminder that healing takes time—but it is possible

Whether you’re in the midst of healing or want to build resilience before a rupture happens, this episode is full of truth, tools, and compassion.

Learn more about Dr. Monique Thompson and her work at doctormoniquethompson.com.

Listen now and learn what it takes to rebuild.

DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes

With Megan Walrod

🎙️ Episode 337: How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes with Megan Walrod

How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes with Megan Walrod

When was the last time you truly chose yourself?

In this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by bestselling author and coach Megan Walrod to talk about what it means to step out of the good girl conditioning—and start living from your own embodied “yes.”

Through her novel, It’s Always Been Me, Megan invites readers into a journey of remembering, reclamation, and desire. In this episode, we explore that same journey—through life transitions, self-abandonment, and finally, self-honoring.

✨ How creative expression can be a tool for reclaiming your power ✨ What it means to “be the oracle” of your own life ✨ Why receiving support often feels hard—and how to shift it ✨ How your inner critic might be hiding untapped power ✨ Practices to reconnect to pleasure, even in the ordinary

This one is rich, warm, and full of truth. If you’ve been craving permission to listen to yourself more deeply—this is your sign.

Megan’s debut novel It’s Always Been Me is coming June 10th! Learn more here: meganwalrod.com/book

🎧 Tune in now and give yourself a big YES.

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved