How to Stop Bickering in Your Relationship and Reconnect Deeply

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 342: How to Stop Bickering in Your Relationship and Reconnect Deeply

Let’s be honest—bickering sucks.

It drains your energy, creates emotional distance, and often leaves both partners feeling misunderstood and alone. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be this way.

In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, You’ll discover why bickering happens (hint: it’s not about the dishwasher) and how couples can shift from reactive patterns into meaningful connection.

You’ll explore:✨ The somatic reasons we bicker—and how to work with your nervous system✨ One simple phrase that can interrupt conflict in the moment✨ How to repair after an argument with grace and accountability✨ A step-by-step structure for productive conversations (that don’t turn into fights)✨ Why creating emotional safety is essential for erotic connection

If you’re tired of the same old arguments or if you feel like your partnership has turned into a series of to-do lists and tense exchanges, this episode will help you course-correct.

DM Amanda on Instagram @abtesta to get 5 bicker breaker tips to stop arguing and start connecting again.

Download the transcript here. 

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

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From Roommates to Lovers: 3 Sexy Secrets to Reignite Your Relationship This Summer

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 341: From Roommates to Lovers: 3 Sexy Secrets to Reignite Your Relationship This Summer

Let’s face it: summer can be beautiful, but also chaotic. Kids at home, calendars full, energy stretched thin. It’s no wonder so many couples end up feeling more like co-parents or coworkers than lovers.

In this solo episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m sharing some of my top client-tested tips to help couples reconnect—not in some hypothetical future, but this summer.

✨ Why intentionality matters more than spontaneity✨ How to carve out time even when you’re “too busy”✨ Why doing fun things together (outside the bedroom) is the real foreplay

If you’re craving more laughter, touch, and desire with your partner, you don’t want to miss this week’s episode.

Want more support creating your relationship vision? Book a 30 min Turn on Tune up call HERE and get my laser focus and expertise to help you map out your relationship vision for the summer.

Download the transcript here. 

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice! 

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture

With Leora Tanenbaum

🎙️ Episode 340: Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture With Leora Tanenbaum

What if owning your image didn’t make you vain—or a target—but powerful?In this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by Leora Tanenbaum, the world’s leading expert on slut shaming and author of six books on the policing of women’s sexuality.

We explore how the culture of nonconsensual sexualization—fueled by social media, AI, and outdated gender norms—impacts girls and women at every age. Leora shares the shocking realities young people face today, and how we as adults can better support, protect, and believe them.

✨ Why the “she asked for it” myth is still dangerously alive✨ The 3 buckets of harm: dress codes, image-based sexual abuse, and victim-blaming✨ Why young women say they’re “owning” their sexuality—and what that really means✨ How parents can approach tough conversations with empathy, not panic✨ What collective action can do to create lasting change

This episode is a call to stop shaming and start listening. Whether you’re a parent, a survivor, or someone who’s been judged for how you show up in the world—this conversation offers deep validation and real direction.

Leora Tanenbaum, author of six books, began researching and writing about slut-shaming before the term even existed. Her newest book is Sexy Selfie Nation: Standing Up for Yourself in Today’s Toxic, Sexist Culture.

Her first book, Slut!, called one of the 20 “must-read” books of all time for women, is regarded as a significant contribution to feminist thought and the foundational text on slut-shaming. Tanenbaum has written for The New York Times, Teen Vogue, Seventeen, Cosmopolitan, New York Daily News, The Nation, and U.S. News & World Report and has been a guest on Oprah, The Today Show, Nightline, Bill Maher, Fox News, MSNBC, and National Public Radio. She is a frequent commentator for USA Today, where she discusses the gendered double standards faced by celebrities and non-celebs alike.

Download the transcript here.

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

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Living More Joyfully, Mindfully + Meaningfully

With Judith Valente

🎙️ Episode 339: Living More Joyfully, Mindfully + Meaningfully with Judith Valente

When was the last time you let yourself truly savor life?

This week on the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by Judith Valente—award-winning author, poet, and spiritual teacher—for a soulful conversation about slowing down, honoring the rhythms of life, and reconnecting to what really matters.

Judith’s newest book, The Italian Soul, explores the rituals and cultural rhythms of Italy—and how they can help us live more fully, more reverently, and more joyfully in our own lives.

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ Why slowing down is essential—not indulgent✨ The joy and healing found in shared meals, simple rituals, and everyday beauty✨ What Italians can teach us about savoring life and prioritizing what matters✨ How to resist the trap of overachieving and reclaim your time✨ The power of place, presence, and belonging

Learn more about Judith and her retreats and books at judithvalente.com.

If you’ve been craving a more meaningful way to move through the world, this conversation will feel like a warm, grounding embrace.

Download the transcript here.

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity

With Dr. Monique Thompson

🎙️ Episode 338: How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity with Dr. Monique Thompson

Is it really possible to come back from betrayal and build something stronger?

This week on Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by therapist and bestselling author Dr. Monique Thompson, who brings over 20 years of experience helping couples heal from infidelity and reconnect with trust, intimacy, and emotional safety.

In this conversation, we dive deep into the real work of repair—and what’s possible when both partners are willing to show up.

✨ Why infidelity is more about consent than sex✨ The difference between repairing and avoiding✨ How to take care of yourself (whether or not the relationship lasts)✨ Why curiosity and personal responsibility are essential✨ A reminder that healing takes time—but it is possible

Whether you’re in the midst of healing or want to build resilience before a rupture happens, this episode is full of truth, tools, and compassion.

Learn more about Dr. Monique Thompson and her work at doctormoniquethompson.com.

Listen now and learn what it takes to rebuild.

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes

With Megan Walrod

🎙️ Episode 337: How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes with Megan Walrod

How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes with Megan Walrod

When was the last time you truly chose yourself?

In this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m joined by bestselling author and coach Megan Walrod to talk about what it means to step out of the good girl conditioning—and start living from your own embodied “yes.”

Through her novel, It’s Always Been Me, Megan invites readers into a journey of remembering, reclamation, and desire. In this episode, we explore that same journey—through life transitions, self-abandonment, and finally, self-honoring.

✨ How creative expression can be a tool for reclaiming your power ✨ What it means to “be the oracle” of your own life ✨ Why receiving support often feels hard—and how to shift it ✨ How your inner critic might be hiding untapped power ✨ Practices to reconnect to pleasure, even in the ordinary

This one is rich, warm, and full of truth. If you’ve been craving permission to listen to yourself more deeply—this is your sign.

Megan’s debut novel It’s Always Been Me is coming June 10th! Learn more here: meganwalrod.com/book

🎧 Tune in now and give yourself a big YES.

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

The Tiny Shifts That Rekindle Midlife Intimacy

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 336: The Tiny Shifts That Rekindle Midlife Intimacy

✨ Can You Really Half-Ass Your Way to a Better Sex Life? (Surprisingly…Yes.)

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by all the advice about what you should be doing to keep your relationship hot, your body youthful, and your sex life thriving—you are not alone.

Especially in midlife, the messages pile up fast:

Plan the perfect date nights!Eat 200 grams of protein!Communicate more!Look younger!Try that new position / that new toy / that new supplement!

It’s enough to make even the most devoted woman feel like intimacy has become yet another exhausting to-do list item.

Here’s the truth no one tells you:

You don’t need to overhaul your life to reignite your love life.

You can “half-ass” your way there—and it’s actually the smarter, more sustainable way.

And in this week’s podcast, you’ll discover why.

✨ Why Perfectionism Kills Connection

The couples I work with are often brilliant, high-achieving, committed.

They can run businesses, raise children, keep all the plates spinning.

But when it comes to intimacy?That same perfectionistic energy often kills desire before it even starts.

They overthink every interaction.They judge themselves and each other.They wait until everything is “perfect”—the house clean, the kids occupied, the to-do list complete.

And guess what?That moment never arrives.

Because life is messy.Bodies are messy.Connection is messy.

When we demand perfection in intimacy, we end up pushing each other away—or giving up altogether.

✨ How Small, Imperfect Moves Create Big Sparks

The real secret to lasting intimacy?Not grand gestures.Not Instagram-worthy vacations.

It’s tiny, imperfect moments of connection, repeated over time.

A lingering touch on the shoulder while passing in the kitchen.A five-second kiss instead of a rushed goodbye.A whispered, “I miss you,” even when it feels vulnerable.A willingness to laugh when awkwardness creeps in.

These are the sacred “half-assed” rituals that change everything over time.

When you stop pressuring connection to be perfect and allow it to be real—that’s when desire sneaks back in.

That’s when you start feeling like lovers again, not just roommates sharing a calendar.

✨ Why “Trying Less” Sometimes Awakens So Much More

When you stop striving for a fantasy version of intimacy,

you open the door to authentic, messy, magical reconnection.

You stop performing.You start being.

And from that place of being—being soft, being curious, being human—your relationship can breathe again.

Intimacy doesn’t thrive on pressure.It thrives on presence.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re craving deeper connection—emotionally, energetically, and erotically—but you’re tired of trying so hard and still feeling so far away…

I’d love to invite you into a different conversation.

One where you don’t have to fix yourself.One where you don’t have to perform.One where you get to come back to yourself, and to your partner, from a place of genuine turn-on.

✨ I offer a limited number of complimentary Reignite Your Feminine Fire calls each month.

On this call, we’ll explore:

What’s really going on underneath the disconnectionWhat your body and soul are craving nowWhether my private mentorship is the just the support you’ve been waiting for

🌹 Click here to book your call.

You don’t need to be perfect.You just need to be willing to take one beautiful, messy, heart-led step.

I’m here to walk with you.

With so much love,Amanda

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Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved

Why You’re Not in the Mood (Hint: It’s Not Hormones—It’s Rage)

With Amanda Testa

🎙️ Episode 335: Why You’re Not in the Mood (Hint: It’s Not Hormones—It’s Rage)

Let’s talk about something that might be behind your low libido—and it’s probably not what you think.

It’s not your hormones.It’s not your age.It’s not your partner.

It’s rage.The rage that never had space to breathe.The swallowed boundaries.The silent “no” that never became a voiced “yes.”

In this week’s episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire podcast, I’m sharing why so many women feel disconnected from their desire—and how that disconnect is often rooted in repressed anger.

You’ll learn: ✨ How rage and erotic energy live in the same part of your nervous system ✨ Why feeling numb or “not in the mood” is often about suppressed emotion, not brokenness ✨ How chronic people-pleasing suffocates your sensuality ✨ The sacred role of anger—and how to work with it gently, without fear ✨ A simple practice to help you safely begin releasing stored rage and reconnect to pleasure

This episode isn’t about doing more. It’s about feeling what’s already there. And remembering: your turn-on isn’t gone. It’s just waiting for you to feel again.

DOWNLOAD THE TRANSCRIPT

Are you ready to take the next step in bringing back the passion to yourself + your relationship?

If you are ready to take the next step in reigniting your passion and enhancing your relationship then book your Free consultation call here.

About Your Host:

My name is Amanda Testa, and I’m a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation.  I’m also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

Get Your Sensual Activation Kit!

Sign up here to receive your free Sensual Self Discovery Journal, Self Love Meditation, And Activation Practice!

Get It Here!

Pssstttt…I’m now booking coaching clients for 1-1 support in creating the relationship and pleasure of their dreams.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

Book Your Call HERE

© Copyright Amanda Testa LLC.  All Rights Reserved